dinner and a movie.
Almost eight years ago, when I was pregnant with Jonas, my parents gave Jon and I the best advice that has ever been passed along to us. They advised us to go out, enjoy date nights, remember who came first in the family. The marriage came first, and if you don't focus on the marriage there is no strength in the family.
They told us to go on two vacations every year, if we could swing it. Take the kids somewhere and make sure to take ourselves, as husband and wife, somewhere too. These days, our lives are all about our children. Our days revolve around our little ones, and we would do anything for them.
But what keeps us strong and unites the two of us as parents is our relationship. In order for us to be the best positive role models for our children, we need to start where everything started in the first place. Us. We need to keep our relationship strong so it can filter down to our children. So our children can sense our happiness and, together as a family, we can share one strong bond.
We don't get out every week, sometimes it's once a month, but those nights count and we count on them. I look forward to a few hours out with my best friend, my husband. I look forward to our conversations, even if they end up being about the kids. And of course, I always look forward to eating good food and drinking fine wine with my partner in crime ;)
This week it was an Italian dinner at a local restaurant (turns out our first choice restaurant was closed) which included homemade bread, stuffed hot peppers, salmon, Chilean sea bass and a bottle of Conn Valley. Then to the movies to see Zero Dark Thirty. I won't bore you with a review, but I do recommend seeing it. Be prepared for some political debate on the way home though.
I have to tell you, Jon makes fun of me for my movie theater ritual. I love to drink coffee after our dinner, but won't get the coffee at the theater. While Starbucks isn't my first choice, it is conveniently located near the movie theater. So, we always stop there, get my coffee and I then hide it in my purse, which I make sure to bring an appropriate one for coffee smuggling. I remember as a child going to the movies and my mom bringing our own snacks....I guess I'm turning into my mom!